I am very grateful for the
people who have been and who are in my life. Through them I have learned a lot,
had lots of experiences and got to know myself better.
Sometimes the experiences with
some of them have not been happy ones. Sometimes being with a particular
someone has been like having a mirror
held up to me to show me something about myself, whether I liked it or not.
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The
people that I have known have given me the opportunity to experience a whole
range of emotions from anger to love and everything in between. They have given me memories that I cherish and
memories that I have had to heal.
They
have shown me the difference between pseudo-friends and real friends. And the
real friends, those who have stuck with me through time are the ones I cherish
most.
There are people however, that we should not hang on to.
Some people are energy vampires. These people do not know how to re-fill their own
“batteries” so they take energy from the people that they are with.
Have you ever felt drained after being with someone? They
go off all sparky and cheerful having been with you; leaving you feeling like a
wet dishrag and in need of a strong coffee! If this has happened to you then
ease this person out of your life. This is not a healthy relationship. And
healthy relationships are what we need.
Then there are the people who do not want to grow
themselves in any way and they resent and are fearful of those who do. So they try to pull us back to their level.
Common signs are when we are told things like: “You have changed; you are not
the same person anymore”. “You are getting above yourself”. “Aren’t we good
enough for you these days?”
These
sorts of comments are designed to make us feel guilty and bad about ourselves
and what we are achieving.
And
then there are the "Dream Killers". People who, when you tell them
your dream go out of their way to burst your bubble. They ridicule you and tell
you how dreams never come true and that you are just being silly thinking that
you could achieve your dream.
My suggestion: Ignore these kinds of comments. Let these
people leave your life, even if they are family members. Follow your heart and
keep going.
Stick with your true friends; the people, who love, support
and encourage you no matter what.
“The
bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in
each other’s life.
Rarely
do members of the one family grow up under the same roof.”
And:
“Every
person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them
there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”
Hilary Thompson
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